My Blog: Forgivable Errors

My oldest son was looking at a picture on my bookshelf. He incorrectly said that his grandmother had changed. She looks different, he said.

I told him that he was looking at my aunt, not my mother. They favor one another if you look at certain pictures from certain times, but they don’t look alike really.

Bryce made a small error. His brain is learning how to size things up, how to take shortcuts, how to see things that are there even when they’re not altogether present. His error was forgivable.

You’ll always name the wrong person if they’re not the one in the picture. You’ll always see something through the eyes you’ve seen them. Until you learn how to observe, how to envision, and how to see.

Avoiding vs. Noticing

Thanks to Grzegorz Meleczev

Thanks to Grzegorz Meleczev

We work to avoid seeing things. Sometimes a vision is unconscious. Sometimes it’s ignored.

I’m working through a book call The Reflective Practitioner: How Professionals Think in Action. I came across words in the book that made me write those sentences.

The book is a slightly dated presentation of how various professionals spot and address problems. There is material about reflection and its role in problem solving. There’s a lot about theory, and I’ll probably shape my reading into a review to keep notes and annotations. There is a fair amount of material in the book about issues.

The book deals with work places and working environments, but it has easy applications for individuals. Whether problems in ourselves or issues in the people we love, it’s hard to see the truth. So we avoid the truth. We avoid what’s present, what’s real. And that takes work.

Reality is in front of us. It is clear, transparent, and visible. And upon seeing clear and visible reality, we cower. Certainly this isn’t automatic. There are clear realities we love. But for the real things we don’t love, we cringe from them.

We feel fear. We start the process of muddying what’s clean and transparent. Then, it becomes easier to not see. As much work as it takes from us, we’d rather create another vision, a manufactured image of ourselves or our significant others than we would notice what’s true.

It takes courage to look at reality, your own or another’s, and say “yes” to what’s there.