Two things happened in the last week. I found out that a good friend was getting married, a friend I didn’t know was even engaged. And another friend got sick and was admitted to the hospital for a couple days. In both those situations I wondered what kind of a friend I was, whether I was loving enough, giving enough, present enough.
Together with Dawn, I went back and forth, mostly laughing at the insanity of our friend whocould be close to marriage and we be sorta left out of that news… At least she didn’t privilege others, and we all found out around the same time.
I’ve learned about friendship this week. I learned that friends are the people who’ll laugh at you when you do something stupid. They are the ones you’ll talk about the colleges where you’ll send your sons. They are the people who won’t keep plans even though you’ve tried to set up another group dinner for the tenth time over Facebook. They are the ones you’ll, somehow, love anyway. They are the ones you’ll tell things to, things you haven’t quite spoken freely about before.
I’ve learned that whether I know as much about my friends and their health (mental health for some of them..haha) as I’d like, life is shaped by our friendships and how we are with them. I want to be gentle with those relationships, handle them with care, because those are the people who are around during the significant moments. Or they’re the people I’ll want to be around during those times.