I am a proponent of marriage.  That’s what I told a friend of mine the other day.  I hear myself saying that all the time to couples who come to my office.  Marriage is one of the ways that God will change you, I tell them.  There are only a few tools or roles or identities that we have that we face everyday.  When you’re married, whatever you do, you do it as a married person.  Good or bad, you are married.

That means that the list of things to do as a married man or woman is long.  Much of it is captured under the old language inside the vow for better or worse.  What do you say sits inside that vow–from your experience or from somebody else’s?  What’s on that list of things spouses do?