I’m thinking about spiritual pain, the inside pain not the outside pain.
I’ve said this to students and to patients, and it’s been said to me. Those pains don’t leave you. They’re there.
In a class with Dr. Butler the other week he said it, which made me write it up and throw it onto the blog. He was telling us that what happens to us, by virtue of it happening, never goes away.
Pastoral care as an effort is about learning how to recognize the pain, integrate the pain, and maybe, live with the pain. But it’s there.
You can hold it in a new way, but you won’t rid yourself of it. Of course, it may go away, and if it does, celebrate.
If it lingers, recognize it, pour a cup of tea.